A huge part of your happiness comes from your relationships with others and the relationship you have with your romantic partner is one that has a significant effect on your happiness.
Today is my wedding anniversary. We are proving the statistics wrong and have been together for 15 years, married for 8 and we are happy.
5 Keys to a Happy Relationship
There are a few things that I, in my finite wisdom, think are important for a happy relationship. They probably aren’t new concepts but rather ones that I think are key and worth a gentle reminder:
- Like any good thing in life, it takes work and you need to actively communicate and address problems as soon as possible.
- In doing so, don’t expect them to change but you will likely need to make compromises and selflessly do things for your partner.
- You need to make a point of spending quality time together.
- In contrast you need to balance it with time apart doing the things you like to do.
- Treat each other with respect, honesty and express your love.
Our Anniversary was a good prompt to remind us of number 3 – spend quality time together. While we regularly have date nights both at home and going out, we have rarely had the opportunity to truly reconnect and spend a full 24 hours totally focused, uninterrupted, on each other. As crazy as it sounds and as embarrassing as it is to admit, this was the very first full night away from our kids that we had taken together!
Being mid week makes it tricky to celebrate, so on the weekend my husband and I organised a babysitter (thanks Grandma!) and were out the door unencumbered by little people.
Reconnect & Spend Quality Time Together
It is important to stay connected with your partner, this is hard to do in the day to day chaos of living life. It isn’t through any fault of your own but romance tends to take a back seat to other priorities. And let’s face it, when you have kids you don’t get much alone time and by the time they are tucked up in bed and your chores for the day are finished you are both exhausted. You just want to listen to the silence, sit with your own thoughts and relax.
We realised that the only way for us to have real quality time together was to get away from home, alone. When time is limited and money is tied up elsewhere this option too often gets dismissed. But there is hope there, you can just stay local.
Escape & Stay Local
The whole point is to simply get away from home and be with each other, not to go site seeing, so it makes sense to stay in a nice hotel close to home. First of all you don’t have to worry about the expense of travel as all you need to do is jump in the car for a quick drive, no flights, taxis and insurance needed. You will also know the area quite well so if you want to go out for drinks, dinner or just grab a coffee, you know exactly where to go so it is easy and stress free. It is like taking a ‘staycation’ to the next level.
My tips would be to pick a really nice hotel, as you will likely spend most if not all of your time there. The hotel is your destination so make it a nice one. You are after a huge comfy bed, a great view, a pool and a decadent breakfast that you can enjoy at your own leisure. If you can, try to get early check in and a late check out so you can make the most of your time away, besides that you can then avoid the huge line ups at reception.
Travel in your own backyard is an oft forgotten option yet one I am a strong advocate of. And do you know what, it doesn’t have to be romantic, you might just need to refresh or get a new perspective, just a little breathing space.
This is not a sponsored post, however on request QT Gold Coast did contribute to my stay.
When was the last time you focused on your relationship for a full 24 hours?
Have you ever had a local night away?